"Do Something" Day 30 - Loss & Grief

Do we really know what to say when someone loses a loved one, a significant other, a pregnancy, a child? We are hurt, troubled, and at most times at a loss for words. What do we say, what don't we say? In our own family of four, we have lost a pregnancy. About 3 years ago, in my 13th week of pregnancy. This child would have been our second child and even though we were blessed one year and one week later with our darling Isaac, I still think about that child we never got to meet and to hold.

Pregnancy and infant loss is not something to "sweep under the rug", I believe in our culture many, many years ago we never spoke about miscarriages. Today is much different, we have support groups, blogs, facebook pages, and many resources to help us through this most difficult time.

Unfortunately not everyone educates themselves on what to say, or not to say. I though I would share this very helpful link on "Words Women Might find Hurtful After a Miscarriage"

http://unspokengrief.com/words-woman-may-find-hurtful-after-miscarriage/

Things that you can say and do:

1) Give a heartfelt hug and say "I'm sorry"

2) Offer to bring a meal

3) Follow up with continued communication.

A woman who has gone through this doesn't take the weekend off to recover, sometimes it takes weeks, months, even years to get through it.

4) Always keep her and her family in your prayers.

This will mean the world to her!

Blessings be with you...